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Diane Payne
Bournemouth Crematorium
Friday 26th October
12 Noon

Opening Music: Have I Told You Lately That I Love You Rod Stewart

Good afternoon everyone and welcome.

Today is a very difficult day. We are here because someone we love – Diane - has died. We don’t want to be here, of course we don’t. But, here we are.

You are sad and that is only natural. Diane is no longer a part of your lives; you will miss her presence every day. You will find yourself thinking ‘I must tell Diane’ then remember that you can’t.

What you can do is hold tight to your love for Diane and she will live on in your memories and the stories you will tell.

When someone we love dies, everything for a time seems to stop; things that were once easy now seem impossible; we are left wondering if we will ever be able to cope again.

Somehow gradually we carry on and we carry on with the support of our family and our friends.

So, thank you all for being here today. Your support and your friendship are very much appreciated by Bryan and all the family – Bryan’s parents Joan and Ray and by his sons Sam and Toby.

I know that some of you have come a long way to be here – thank you.

Thank you also for the cards that Bryan has received – almost all have the same sentiments – how brave Diane has been through everything. A brave and courageous lady.

As an only child, Diane was close to her cousins Mike and Lesley, especially when they were growing up. She was named after a good family friend – Diane – her unofficial Godmother.

Diane’s cousin Mike is coming now to talk about her early life:



Thank you Mike for sharing those memories.


Diane and Bryan met through the Daily Mail online chat site and forum. They had been ‘talking’ for some time before meeting in person when Bryan invited himself to Diane’s flat for dinner – she was a very good cook!

This was on 19 June 2002.

Just 7 months later in January 2003 Diane sold her flat in Farnham and moved into Bryan’s flat in Southbourne. This was a bit of a challenge for someone who loved to cook – there was a very small galley kitchen with no proper oven but she still managed to cook lovely meals.

The plan had been to sell both properties and buy another together but this didn’t happen until March 2006 when they moved to Lymington. In May 2006 they got their puppy Minnie and, just one month later, Diane was diagnosed as having breast cancer.

A good friend took Minnie for a while so they could concentrate on Diane and her treatment which, although tough, she went through so bravely, even coping with losing her lovely long hair.

Diane enjoyed cooking in her new kitchen; she also enjoyed arts and crafts. She regularly visited Oakhaven – the Coates Centre to do craft work and meet up with others.

Diane also enjoyed long walks and holidays in the sun, often meeting up with friends from the online forum in Spain and Portugal.

‘The Boys’ – Sam and Toby are coming to say a few words:


Now that I have gone before the rest of you,
Break not a flower, nor inscribe a stone,
Nor, when I’m gone, speak in a Sunday voice,
But be the usual selves that I have known.
Weep if you must, parting is hell,
But life goes on, so sing as well.

Thank you.



Let’s take a few moments to reflect on what Diane means to you as we listen to Eva Cassidy singing Somewhere Over The Rainbow. Think about some of those happy times you spent together.

Two and half years ago Diane was diagnosed with secondary cancer; again she was so brave through everything. They had a lovely time on the Isle of Wight for Bryan’s birthday.

Although unwell, the end was quite sudden and unexpected. Diane passed away on 10th October in Southampton Hospital with Bryan and his mum Joan at her side.

To know Diane was a privilege – that simple fact is something to remember with love.

We have been remembering Diane with love and with gratitude. Diane will be missed by everyone who know and loves her.

We have now reached the time when we must prepare ourselves to leave this place and to say farewell. Let’s take a moment in silence to say your own private goodbye to Diane, to be still with your thoughts.

Thank you

Let’s say together The Lord’s Prayer

Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into
temptation, but deliver us from evil. For thine is the kingdom, the power,
and the glory. Forever and ever. Amen.


At this point I will walk over and put my hand on the coffin and say

Thank you, Diane, thank you for your friendship, thank you for your love, thank you for being you!

Rest now in peace; rest in peace secure in the knowledge that you will always be remembered by those who love you so very much.

I will now walk back to the lectern

It is true that your lives will never, ever, be quite the same again without Diane but she lives on in your hearts and in your memories.

Remember all those aspects of Diane’s life that you honoured, that you respected and that you loved.

Diane was loved so much. She always will be. Today, you must tighten your grip on that love and hold it fast to your hearts. You will carry your love for Diane with you for the rest of your lives.

Everyone is now invited to join the family for refreshments at the Mudeford Club – please use the time you have together today to share your own happy memories of Diane.


A beautiful memory left behind
Of someone who was good and kind.
A life made good by kindly deeds
And generous thoughts for others’ needs.
You left quietly, without a fuss,
You always had a smile to share,
A laugh, a joke, a time to care.
A wonderful nature, warm and true,
These are the memories we have of you.
A beautiful life, come to an end.
Diane, you died, as you lived, everyone’s friend.



Closing Music: Always look on the bright side of life -- monty python

[Kaz]

(((((Bryan))))) It was a lovely service, a very fitting tribute to Di xxxx

[JanB]

Thank you Bryan, for sharing this with us all, especially those who couldn't make it xx

[Lozzles]

Thank you for sharing that with us Bryan x

[saundra]

Many thanks Bryan my heart is full like yours and your family and friends


God bless. Saundraxxxx

[manxie]

I can only echo the same message as others Buster, we were all fortunate to have known Di, I for one have a great admiration for both Di and yourself, to have so selflessly shared with us all the last few months inparticular.

Love Manxie xx

[Weka]

Thank you for sharing her service with those of us who could not be there. Our memories of Di live on safely in our hearts.

[Nanna]

Thank you xxxx

[jenniren]

Thank you Bb xxx