by Suff » 01 Feb 2016, 12:44
Kate, no reason why you should not explain the way you feel. I haven't had anything like the situation you have in your life, however I've had to live with the aftermath of a violent man who kicked his wife around for 10 long years. The police would do nothing until he finally kicked one of the children and left a mark. After which he was arrested. I have a huge sympathetic support for the Zero tolerance group for violence against women, even though I've met quite a few battered husbands...
I live with the aftermath of that violence, abandonment, financial pillaging and all the rest, every single day. I can never, not once, show my true feelings when extremely angry although my body language, when mad, is impossible to hide and generates fear even though there is not one single instance to make that fear a reasonable reaction.
What I try to focus on is this. Those people were safe. They put their children through this for material gain. If you put your own experiences into the mix and think about men who demand their wives and children either follow them into danger or precede them on a dangerous journey, would you not want to stop that?
The only way tio stop that is to deny the few. Because if we do not, then the many will be at risk... If I did not fully believe that I would be exactly where you are. Having taken on 4 children from broken relationships and made them mine, completely, with all the benefits my efforts in work and income bring; I try to live as I would have others treat me. I've been poor, I've had a hopeless future, I've had to drag myself up from the depths of benefits and make a life for us all. I don't treat that system lightly because I know just how close many are to being on it and needing it desperately.
Why would I blithely hand that system over to someone who has never worked or paid for it (either by person or family), is not even a citizen and does not have my values?
Your heart does you great credit, but if we are to support our own to a future they should expect, we can't keep taking people who turn up on our border, illegally, then demand entrance for no other reason than they want to. After all, benefits in France are plenty good enough for people who are supposedly at great risk for their lives....
So why don't they register in France and start living a comfortable life?
The answers are simple. 1. they would have to learn French both verbal and written and then write all their forms and applications in French (no translation available in France). 2. The job prospects are much less in France and the wages are significantly lower, which is why property is cheaper. 3. You can't just become a French citizen after 5 years. You have to have competence in the French language, written and spoken, at a school leaver level, you have to pass a test and you have to commit to integration.
So what are we? Well we're just a soft touch which is why thousands are sitting there in squalor waiting for us to cave in.
Would you want millions of people with that attitude in the UK?
Last week I saw someone begging on the tram on the way from Edinburgh Airport. I just started at her until she went away, the clothes she was wearing cost at lest 5 times what was on my back. Once she had been from one end of the tram to the other, she then pulled her £700 mobile phone out and proceeded to have a conversation.
Is that what we want to bring into the UK?
You can't think with your heart when the consequences to our own vulnerable is so high. Just witness the syndicated Big issue sellers. Where are our own homeless? Because the only people who sell the big issue now are not native British. I haven’t given a penny to the Big Issue for more than a decade now and I used to give quite a lot.
There are 10 types of people in the world:
Those who understand Binary and those who do not.