Funeral wishes

[Gal]

Nice one Cromwell!!!

Well Tom has already put down his deposit for a plot in the village he lived in (til he met me) near to his parents graves....so I guess he knows how he wants to be laid to rest - whilst I definitely don't want burying and not at 'his' village!! Cremation for me, same as my parents. I know some people like to think you are visiting a grave to 'see' your relative, but really that's not how I feel things are, IYKWIM. A person's spirit is near you always, not in a hole in the ground - no disrespect to those wishing for burials, it's just my thoughts and feelings.

Not really thought about music. Something not very sad I think.

Jo that made me smile about the Green Day song The ashes you mention....maybe that's just the way it is, they're meant to still be there....

[Kaz]

Cromwell

My wishes are similar to Ria's - I am an organ donor, so once they've taken any bits that haven't either worn out or dropped off I want to be cremated, and my ashes buried in one of those tree pods, under a tree

Mick won't discuss it ( ) so if he goes first, which I sincerely hope he doesn't, I'll have to decide.

D has hers all planned, bought and paid for.

My mum and dad were both cremated, and whilst most of the ashes were scattered on the rose garden at the crematorium, we were given a small tube of each for my sister to bury under the Golden Wedding rose bush that we bought them for their Golden Wedding. Julie dug it up out of their garden, before we sold the place, and put it in a big tub to keep in her garden.

[AliasAggers]

I think it's an excellent idea. Mrs A and I have both completed complete full details of just
what we would prefer when we depart, and put them in the top drawer of our filing cabinet.

[Osc]

Great replies - especially Crommers

I gave the letter to Miss Osc, so it's done now. She vaguely knew what we wanted, but I think she was glad to have it all written down. I have wanted this song at my funeral since the very first time I heard it.

https://youtu.be/e3wF_N2WdP4

[JoM]

Gal, I don't know. John's friend's ashes were scattered on the Chase, he was a mountain biker so John and other friends went along for the scattering so he knew where they were and when we walked by a few days later there was no trace, just the flowers that had been left, and it's the same on the common where I know a dog walker's ashes were scattered around a year ago.
Where these are is very sheltered from wind and it looks as though they've got wet and just clumped together

My colleague is determined that she would like her parents buried in a cemetery as she wants to know where they so she can visit them. For me, having lost my dad whilst living in SA and he was buried there; and me now living in the UK it's quite the opposite - I wasn't able to go to his grave as much as I probably would have had I remained in SA so knowing what I know now I'd like the memories to be free if that makes sense? I don't want anyone to feel bound by a single location

John's Dad's wishes were to be buried in Norwich because he said that was where he was happiest. It's around a four hour drive from us so John's only been to the grave twice in almost 18 years since he died (once when we were there visiting the area to show the boys were he lived as a youngster and a couple of years ago when he went to his aunt's funeral). There's no one local to visit the grave though, and that's why mother in law goes a few times a year, not especially to visit her siblings as they've either died or don't speak, but to visit the grave and tidy it up.

[Kaz]

That's the thing about an actual grave, isn't it? Someone needs to look after it. Some of the graves up on the hill where my late father in law is buried are pretty untidy, which is an awful shame. The last time D and I were up there, the grave next to his looked scruffy, so we tidied it a little, and polished the brass plaque

[Ally]

That's the thing about an actual grave, isn't it? Someone needs to look after it. Some of the graves up on the hill where my late father in law is buried are pretty untidy, which is an awful shame. The last time D and I were up there, the grave next to his looked scruffy, so we tidied it a little, and polished the brass plaque

Don's brother (the one who was killed in Vietnam) is buried in Oscott cemetery.

Because of its location it makes it very difficult to get to for Don to visit when he goes over to see his mum.

Don's dad has a stone where his ashes were scattered at Robin Hood in Hall Green which isn't too far from Don's mum's care home and he tries to get there as often as he can (which isn't very often )

[Kaz]

Mick's dad's grave is a plaque over the spot where his ashes are buried. I go up there with D these days. Mick never goes as he gets too upset In my opinion he hasn't processed his grief all that well

[Osc]

My father's grave is in the fairly local graveyard, but to be honest it doesn't mean that much to me. We pop in occasionally when driving by to keep the gravel weed free, but I don't really feel he is there. My mother's and brother's ashes are there too.

[Diflower]

Bb knows more or less what I want, I don't know about him though.
I ought to write it down, especially the bit about which photos are acceptable