by Oojamaflip » 11 Mar 2013, 10:39
Kaz, similar to you: very hard-working but financially poor upbringing on a council estate, then being the only one from my school who passed the 11+ and went to Grammar school, etc, etc. My mum still lives in my childhood home on what is now classed as a 'sink estate'.
People cannot help the circumstances they are born into, nor can we always help the 'stuff of life' that is thrown at us to alter our life's circumstances. If we naturally have enough brain cells, or we've had the education and the emotional backing which means we're secure in who we are and have a capability of attempting to change our lives, we sometimes do not have the ability to recognise that not everyone has had this privilege. This is why generalisations and stereotypes are so dangerous. Always, always, it's best, as Kaz says, to speak as you find. I know and have genuine friends who are the Frank Gallaghers of this world, who can dodge and dive and 'do a deal', and equally I have genuine friends who could be described as the 'great and the good'.
It's been said before, that our Welfare State is there as a safety net, and thank the Lord it's there. The only ones 'deserving' of criticism are the intentional lead-swingers, those who 'work' the system, the cheats, and maybe those who have the unchanging attitude 'my mother's auntie's brother once paid tax, so it's my right'. It's sad to me that those many others who are so deserving and in need are caught up generalisations and stereotypes.
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