Clare's Law

[Workingman]

This allows people to check the police record of their (prospective) partners to see if they have a history of domestic violence. It sounds reasonable in that its aim is to protect women from violent men, but who will use it, and when?

Will it be used by women on a random basis as a sort of assurance that their latest boyfriend is 'safe', or will it be used by those who suspect they have something to fear?

If it is the first group it will have created another, male, bogeyman on every corner and a breakdown of trust in a relationship. Imagine how you would feel if you discovered that your other half had secretly done a police check on you.

If it is women from the second group shouldn't they be taking steps to get out of the relationship asap? Doing a police check, if they are found out, could put them at greater risk than they already are and they will still have to break off contact.

I am not sure that it is the best law ever dreamed up.

[KateLMead]

In many ways I can understand why women worry when they enter a new relationship, violence and crime in all areas is so much in the news Frank, women pick up men as men pick up women and they tend to enter sexual relationships without any form of courtship these days knowing nothing of the individual
I would not like to be young.

[pederito1]

Unlike Sarah`s law I do not think it is a brilliant idea.

[Workingman]

Reading the replies in some of the papers I was amazed at how many people think it is a good idea and even want it extending to medical records - sexually transmitted disease or abortions. One person seriously proposed a phone app to make the checks easier/instant!

"Are ye dancin'?"
"Are ye askin'?"
"I'm askin'."
"I'll just check t'see if me phone sez it's OK."

[Kaz]

[Workingman]

I find it rather sinister that someone should need all this reassurance over every aspect of their lives.

They shouldn't be allowed out..... and if they need an app to get it they should not be allowed anywhere near a phone.

[TheOstrich]

Funnily enough, I'm more in favour of this law than I ever was over the paedo law (that's because outed paedophiles are far more vulnerable to retaliation from members of "society" than abusive partners would be).

I just think the world is very different since the days of internet dating .... I've noted some of Master O's "experiences" in this field ....

[Aggers]

I
I would not like to be young.

I wouldn't in today's society, but I would if things were like they were in my youth.

I was twenty-seven when I got married - and both my wife and I were virgins - which was nothing unusual then.

Oh, happy days.

[KateLMead]

I thought I read 77 Aggers.. Your wife looked lovely when we met. You are well suited.. Congratulations..