cromwell wrote:Diflower wrote:So, no social services? You're quite happy that 'someone' sees a 3-year-old, in a dirty flat, on a flea-infested mattress, obviously extremely undernourished, stinking of poo and wee, but has no-one to tell, no way out for this child? You just leave them to die, do you?
So what happens now?
We rescue the child and place it into the care system.
Of all the children who go into care, how many come out of it and make a go of their lives, and how many descend into a life of unemployment, crime, prison and drugs? How many have children of their own who also end up in care?
So if children's social services can't be abolished, how could they be reformed? Or is the status quo acceptable?
It all depends on how quickly they act and get a child out of there. Children aged 5 or over are quite hard to place adoption wise, although it does happen (we matched two 9 year olds with new families a couple of months ago). The majority of older children and more damaged children tend to go into foster care and as long as the foster carers are good (which I am sure the majority are) then I think they stand a very good chance of going on to lead a "normal" life. I think the ones that are more likely to descend into a life of crime and prison (I won't count unemployment as that is the pathway for many teenagers nowdays, no matter what their background - the same with drugs) are those that end up either going into residential homes or staying with their parents.
The cycle needs to be broken - therefore the more children that can be removed from a violent and abusive environment, the more chance they have of breaking that cycle.
No - the status quo isn't acceptable but it is more acceptable than life without childrens social services. It is never acceptable to leave a child living in fear and danger.
And I don't particularly think it is the social care system that needs to be reformed - what needs doing is breaking the cycle of abuse which means that every single one of us needs to be more aware and report things, not just decide that it is nothing to do with us. That includes the social workers, doctors, teachers, police, etc - everyone has to take responsibility.
As a nation we are more likely to report the mistreatment of an animal than we are of a child or vulnerable adult. So it's not only the parents that abuse their children that need educating, its the rest of us that need to feel that we can report our friends, neighbours or total strangers if we think someone is in danger.
Easier said than done sadly - so many people now would be too fearful of being classed as a busy body and professional people are too afraid of being accused of wrong doing.